high school drama sucks. (venting)

[zaryn kate oliver]

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soo... obviously, i know that this isn't a diary. and i do have a diary... i just already wrote in mine, and apparently, that's not enough. i need to... vent more. so, let me tell you a little (very true) story. it starts when i'm not even there. thirteen years ago. my two best friends (now, not then), beccy and carly, are meeting on the first day of preschool. what happens is this:

carly is on the rocking horse in the corner. beccy approaches.
beccy: "hi! wanna be friends?"
carly: "no!"

yes. how awesome is that?! pretty damn awesome.

anyways, so all of a sudden, about a week later, they're pretty good friends. flash forward two years. first day of kindergarten. beccy's in a different kindergarten class. carly is in mine. my mom and carly's mom see each other when they come to drop us off, and realize that they were friends when they were little! yeah. my mom and jana, carly's mom, used to trade shoes walking down the road and jana's parents (who were really strict) would yell at them for it.

so then me and carly are friends. the bff's at this point are rachel, carly, and sammy, who disappears later. or, rather, becomes a sort of jock-like girl and has different friends. the two kindergarten classes have french together; this leads to beccy being referred to by me as "rebecca from french." how cute.

ever since grade one, me and beccy and carly have been these three best friends. i feel like a third wheel sometimes, unless they're fighting, and then i'm suddenly loved. by both of them. which makes them force me to choose, and i have to make them be friends with each other again. that's just... how it goes. in grade five, i met adrianna through ballet. she was in the same position as me, just with different people -- cara and brianne, i think. so we became friends. we had a lot in common.

then in grade eight, beccy gets thrown into this... this cycle. with this other girl named mariah. here's how the cycle goes:

step 1: beccy and mariah hate each other.
step 2: beccy and mariah become friends.
step 3: beccy starts being bitchy to some of her other friends.
step 4: mariah starts telling me and carly that no, we aren't beccy's best friends -- she is.
step 5: me and carly are closer than we've ever been before, joined by our hate for mariah.
step 6: beccy sometimes hangs out with me and carly, sometimes with mariah.
step 7: carly and mariah hate each other. i am the one that mariah simply tolerates.
step 8: beccy and mariah have a huge fight.
step 9: beccy and mariah aren't friends anymore.
step 10: me and carly are happy.

and then it goes back to step 1 again. this cycle has been going on since the eighth grade. it usually amounts to half a year of friendship and half a year of hate between beccy and mariah. every time that beccy and mariah hate each other, beccy tells me and carly that next time she tries to be friends with mariah, we have her permission to boycott her until she isn't. a great plan, that's what me and car think, generally.

except then they become friends and we try to boycott beccy like she told us to, and she gets mad at us and usually cries because we're "being mean." um, what? she told us to do it! but whatever. so the cycle continues.

grade eleven, this year -- the cycle is worse. think last day before christmas break. it's friday. shortened day already, because at my school we get out early on fridays. not only that, but classes are about half an hour, lunch is longer, and at the end, we're going to have the teacher's skits, which are usually just appropriate enough so they don't all get fired. everyone wears santa hats to school, and despite the rule of no christmas movies or music during classes, we watch the grinch in p.e. (carly) or dance (me), rudolph if you're in drama, and help your aging, crazy french teacher navigate youtube to listen to the glee christmas music.

see? a pretty great day, i think.

at lunch, me and carly take beccy for a walk to talk to her about what a bitch mariah is, because mariah was being... unusually bitchy. we sit down about halfway across the school, and start talking and telling her what mariah says to carly, what mariah does to this person and that person because she's really evil to everybody. she's even evil to beccy. only beccy seems not to notice, because she's her "friend."

then mariah comes around the corner and says, very loudly and obnoxiously, "well, i figure since you're talking about me, i should probably be here." and beccy finally stands up to her -- or we think she does -- and says, "we aren't talking about you anymore." ha! only then there's this huge argument between carly and mariah, with me and beccy sitting in the middle of it.

mariah said that carly is a slut/skank/anything else insulting she could think of (which is stupid since mariah's a slut, just so you know) and that she sends nude pictures to everyone on the planet (totally not true) and that she sexted with my first ever boyfriend (even though carly and my first ever boyfriend hated each other's guts) and other guys that had boyfriends (not true). she kept yelling, "what the f*** is wrong with you?!" and carly kept saying, in a very emotionless and what i would call mature way, "i'm not doing this right now." but mariah kept yelling at her and carly ended up running away, crying.

so i followed her. i think beccy went to sit with some different friends, and mariah went back to our "group" of friends who eat by the locker that i share with beccy. i was twenty minutes late for my thirty-five minute chemistry class because i was chillin' in the bathroom with carly until she felt okay again.

christmas break. we forget about stuff (or try to) until school starts again. which was yesterday. a tuesday, so mariah and beccy had student council -- me and car actually ate by my locker with the rest of our friends, and everything was happy and good in the world...

then, today, me and carly stopped by beccy's social studies class at the beginning of lunch to ask her to eat with us. because that's what generally happens, is she'll spend a lunch with mariah, then a lunch with us. that's part of the cycle, too. she says she'll meet us at carly's locker after she buys her lunch, because she wastes money all of the time by buying food. so me, carly, adrianna and this girl caitlin who adrianna and carly half-like and used to be one of my best friends and is now just a normal friend, i think, go and sit by carly's locker to eat lunch.

after a while, arianna (not adrianna, haha) comes to sit with us, too. she says that beccy's sitting by her locker with mariah and everyone else. me and carly aren't really too pleased about that, but we don't want to go over there because we aren't in the mood to deal with mariah. so lunch goes on without beccy.

i have to go to my locker to get my chemistry books. adrianna comes with me; car doesn't because she's made a deal with herself that she's only going to be within earshot of mariah in the one class they have together. carly goes to math early and me and adrianna go to my locker. we come around the corner and this is what happens:

me: beccy, why didn't you come to car's locker?
beccy: because i thought we were meeting here?
me: you're the one that said carly's locker...
beccy: oh. sorry.
mariah: what the f***?!
me: what? (crosses to my locker)
mariah: why would beccy f***ing go eat with you guys?

gee, thanks.

me: because... she said she was going to. (opens locker)
mariah: oh, grow the f*** up! why can't you guys just f***ing eat with us?!
me: 'cause we don't want to?
mariah: what are you, f***ing two? no. you're f***ing sixteen. grow up.
me: is beccy not allowed to eat with us now? we're her friends, too. (gets chemistry textbook and binder)

beccy is silent. and is the f word the only swear that mariah knows?

mariah: f***ing grow up! (babbles on with a lot of f***s and f***ings as i slam my locker shut and leave)

so now here i am, with this girl who was always just fake-nice to me officially hating me. and i'm fuming about that and adrianna's saying something along the lines of "what the f***? i know i said that i'm not choosing sides between you and carly or mariah, but nobody talks to my best friend like that."

aw, i'm flattered. i'm adrianna's best friend. i love you, adrianna, if you ever stumble across this somehow. <3

and i'm mad at beccy, too. i've never been this mad at beccy before in my life. which sucks, really, because my mom and her mom are friends. so they're going to want to do something and they're going to invite us to come and i'll say no. so then my mom will tell beccy's mom that i'm mad at beccy. beccy's mom will get mad at beccy for something she doesn't know that beccy did, and beccy will get mad at me. that's a cycle, too. a different one.

i guess i'm not that pissed off that beccy's friends with her. i'm more mad that she says that she's still friends with me and carly, yet just sits there in silence and doesn't even stand up for me while mariah tells me all of that. i mean, seriously? is it just me, or is that not how a friend should respond? i just wanted beccy to be a little bit mad at mariah for that. more like adrianna. adrianna had a frickin' great response.

and honestly, did mariah really have to go on about me being immature? i don't think i am. i think that it was pretty damn mature of me to decide when mariah was being a bitch to carly that i wasn't going to be friends with mariah. i think it was mature to tell beccy and adrianna, no, i'm not eating there, i'm not being nice to mariah. you can be friends with her, but i'm not going to. i think it was mature not to ask beccy and adrianna to choose, but just to maybe be friends with both sides.

yet mariah thinks i'm the immature one. (do you think i am?) she's the one who just turned seventeen and is being a control freak and telling beccy to be her friend, not mine and carly's, and controlling beccy and everyone else who she claims is her "friend" and making up shit about carly.

i went to chemistry and ate all of the chocolate i've been saving since christmas. chocolate makes people feel better; it's true. i learned that in harry potter and the prisoner of azkaban when harry faints and professor lupin gives him a chocolate frog.

wow. did i say that would be a short story? i'm sorry. :/

_correction:
my bad. carly wasn't on the rocking horse in preschool. she was eating play dough. :P

_update:
So... More shit went down tonight. Mariah (at least, we think that's who it was) phoned Carly's HOUSE PHONE with a "private number" and a disguised voice. She left a message saying that Carly has Facebook (which she's not allowed) and sends nude pictures to 45-year-old men (which is completely untrue). I was eating dinner when Beccy phoned to tell me to call Carly. She only said that Car was upset and that she had to go out, so she couldn't talk to her. Car was crying when I phoned her. Her dad and her older brother both heard the message, but haven't decided if they're going to tell her mom or not. Carly told them the truth -- that she does have Facebook but definitely does not send nude pictures to ANYBODY. Even though she's going to get in trouble for having Facebook, she doesn't like lying to them (her parents). I asked Car if she wanted me to come over to help her feel better, even though I was in my pyjamas. Her dad said not to because then Carly's mom would know something was up (you know, as moms know things when their daughter's crying and her BFF shows up in her PJ's with a bunch of chocolate) and they hadn't decided if they were going to tell her or not...

I WANT TO KILL MARIAH.

[eulaline alette poe]

wow, your poor friend.. i dunno, just wow. that's intense. girls can get pretty bitchy sometimes. sorry you & your friend have to go through that :\

[zaryn kate oliver]

what confuses me is that some people say the crap is over once you graduate, and some people say it's worse. and each side is about half of the people who i talk to, so i don't know which one it is... :/

i'm going to try and convince carly to tell her parents, because mariah is seriously harassing her, and something needs to be done about it... if she won't, i'm going to try and convince her to tell the most easy-going teacher in our school. i know she won't go for telling a counselor, so the dance teacher it is. even though car doesn't actually know her that well, i do.

and then if she still won't do it... then i'll tell my parents. my dad, specifically, because my mom would completely freak out and not be listening once i said "mariah's harassing carly" and she wouldn't listen to the reasons i'm saying that. i would go and tell carly's parents, but when i try to talk to people, sometimes i just freeze up and i can't say it and i chicken out. so maybe if my parents talk to her parents...?

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[eulaline alette poe]

well, it's all about who you choose to surround yourself with, really. like, in high school, you're in this bubble. you're around the same people for four years and see them everywhere you go. you're likely to have smaller classes with them. in college, if you go to a huge university, it's not so big of a deal. you'll probably have to make dates to see your friends because it's less likely to see them walking around campus, and you'll have to schedule any classes you want to take together. but what's even better is you have a larger "pool of fish" to choose friends from.

i hope you all get this settled! if she doesn't want to tell anyone though, try not to butt in. you have the best intentions, i mean that's seriously a shitty thing of mariah to do, but let her do what she wants, when she is ready. just tell her it couldn't hurt to tell the dance teacher, and or weigh out telling her parents (just her dad, or even her mom). tell her her parents love her, and wouldn't/shouldn't be mad when they hear someone is harassing their daughter.

[zaryn kate oliver]

i don't want her to get mad at me or anything if i tell someone, but i'm worried and it's been going on for a long time, not just this year. just this year is worse... :/

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[gracelyn shae grammar]

i think you're handling this very maturely, and i'm proud of you! if you need anyone to talk to, i'm here. =)

[aurora rose eldrick]

I got into a similar situation, but instead of letting it go on for that long, I told them they were both causing me chronic headaches and to get their shit together. I moved schools, so I really could back myself up when I said I was done.
You're handeling this maturely though, that's for sure.

[zaryn kate oliver]

so i realized i haven't updated this in a super-long time. what happened was i told carly that we needed to tell someone and she agreed to at least think about going to talk to ms g, the dance teacher. and then the next day, we did -- me and carly and adrianna went and talked to her because she went through a lot of shit in high school, too, so she understood and stuff.

ms g got one of our vice principals to talk to mariah in the way that goes, hey, i heard you were doing this, instead of hey, these people told me you did this. and then it stopped! (:

oh, and then mariah told beccy that bexx causes too much drama in her life and she never wanted to be her friend again. and beccy was like, um, wtf? i cause drama?? lol. and theeennnn... now it's all good, as of this particular moment, and it's been a couple months and everything's happy.

except since mariah has no real friends anymore, she eats with us still and we all have to be civil to her. -_-